why i'd rather nurse in private

Back when I was pregnant, I read article after inspiring article about women who learned how to nurse (Yes, you DO have to learn), and then learned how to be ok with nursing in front of people. I personally felt like I somehow had to get to the point where I had to be comfortable with nursing in public, and after months of initial frustration trying to figure out the logistics of discreet nursing, I've come out with a method of nursing in public that (mostly) works for me. However, I am not ashamed to say that I would really rather nurse in private if I have the opportunity, and it's ok to be ok with that.

Here's why:


Nursing (discreetly) in public is like driving. You have to be aware of several things simultaneously: making sure your clothes are in place, making sure your nursing cover (if you use one) is actually working, and most importantly, making sure your baby has a good latch. If you're talking to someone, or tending to other children at the same time, your multi-tasking capacity may be on overdrive since you only have one free hand, unless your baby is large and fussy, (like Noweo often is,) then you may need two hands to wrangle your little one. Like driving, it gets easier over time, but if you nurse alone, then all you really have to worry about is getting a good latch. I personally enjoy giving my brain a break.

Peace and Quiet

Need I say more? If you could escape chaos, even if for just a few minutes, why not? Nursing in private offers a much needed lull in my otherwise jam-packed day. There have been countless instances where I've tried to nurse Noweo with other people around, and she was too stimulated to eat, even though she's hungry. Taking your baby out of the action for a few minutes may give her enough calm to focus on nursing.


This the most poignant reason for me. The first time I nursed Noweo was immediately after delivery. It was calm, quiet and intimate. Beautiful. Taking every opportunity I can to relive those moments by recreating a serene, private atmosphere where I can bond with my baby is worth missing out on a conversation, or a movie, or any other event that would require us to remain in the public eye.

I have no problem nursing in public, and with others nursing in public, but I relish every sweet private moment I can get, to talk to Noweo, to rub her back, play with her toes, hold her hand, to tell her I love her. It's one of my favorite things. So don't feel bad for me if you see me sneaking away. I'm making sure I don't miss a thing.